性爱之后

提防、猜疑、试探、防范、进攻、射闪、计谋、策略、犹豫、迷惑。

这是爱情战争的主要形式，恋爱的结果并不重要，游戏过程便是一切。

爱情变的尴尬而微妙起来。

以前的爱情，基本上是男女双方与社会环境作战，现在，爱情的主战场转到男人与女人之间。

一个人套起盔甲，正面站着，像是有些坚硬，这是粗粝的人生所要求于他的，而待其慢慢转过身子，背后还是露出了荏弱的部分。

但就是这么一些相悖的东西，构成了一个完整的人。

这是没有办法的事情。

所以，还是温柔的转身，说出来，“i love you”，等着你的，会是动容的“i love you,too”。

。。

挺逗的。。。

一对GAY。。

的那个片段。。

people have to face what he or she really is 。。

可是。。

总是不愿意承认。。

最后一对乐死人了。。

好玩。。

其实本片是看似有点色，但是挺严肃的探讨性的电影。

但可惜的是，美国人的性观念，距离我们中国人实在太远了。

不要说同性恋或性派对，就是看两个人刚云雨之后，还要拼命反驳我们没有爱情，极力否定我对你有感觉，就让我不可理解。

性，应该是两个人爱到浓时，无声胜有声的感情升华，那才是美好美妙的，而不是纯动物性的发泄。

我觉得好莱坞电影总在传导少年破处还很酷的理念，实在不可理喻，但又客观存在。

感觉本片对性的探讨还仅限于表面，从不同人的侧面来表现人对性、爱的观点，但只是一种反映缺乏深度的思考。

看到verycd上有下载，忍不住重新下下来，又看了一遍。

多好的电影啊。

假如我是教育部长，一定会强烈推荐给全国高校的学生，作为大学期间必看电影之一，看完还要写心得体会，开班会集体讨论。

又或者，如果我能遇到机器猫，我会要它用时间机器带我回到上世纪90年代，去某个中学校园，找到某个为超重烦恼，为体育考试烦恼，无聊的时候爱哼一首奇怪的歌的小孩。

我会告诉他，喂，小孩，虽然《出路》是一首很酷的歌，可是将来很多很多的问题，哼歌也解决不了的。

所以我把这张碟给你，当你遇到头疼问题的时候，你看看这张碟里的电影就好了。

可是，当我和机器猫飞回21世纪，我突然想起来，糟糕，我忘了送他一台电脑了！

[欢愉之后].After.Sex.2007.Festival.DVDRiP.XviD-iNTiMiD.avi

一部很神奇的片子。

但是我没看完。

片子的结构很简单，若干个小故事，每个都从SEX结束开始，然后就是主角的谈话。

每个故事都只有两个人——的确，SEX的确是两个人的事情，三个人或者多个人倒只是在硬盘里的片子里出现。

之前看到过一句话，说什么是爱，爱就是激情退去之后的还能恋恋不舍的感觉。

这部片子就讲了这样的故事。

有明明相爱却不敢承认的，有是gay却不敢承认的，激情过后不知道对方名字和底细的，有小攻想当小受的，有初尝禁果被母亲发现的……故事我们遇不到倒也不离奇，就像是生活我们却不会经历。

- Love is not negotiable.- Everything is negotiable.- No, not love. Love is a guessing game. And that's the beauty of it. There's no guarantee. It's like, diving into a pool of water without knowing if it's shallow or deep. And sure yeah, if shallow you may end up hurt and paralyze from the neck down. But if it's deep, you know, it's a loop of faith. It's like, throwing yourself out there without any guarantees. Dude, that's what life is about. Ok, you know those carnival games? And you know some of them are really hard to win and some of them are super easy and everyone wins?- Sure.- That's the difference between love and sex. Sex is the game where everyone wins a little prize and no one goes home a loser. And love is the game that it's really hard to win. But if you do, and you get to take home that life-size stuffed rhinoceros. It feels a whole lot better than taking home a cheap plastic key chain.

　Love is not negotiable. Love is a guessing game. And that's the beauty of it. There's no guarantees. It's like, diving into a pool of water without knowing if it's shallow or deep. And sure yeah, if it's shallow you end up hurt and paralyzed from neck down. But if it's deep, you know, it's a leap of faith. It's like, throwing yourself out there without any guarantees. That's what life is about. Ok, you know those carnival games? And you know some of them are really hard to win and some of them are super easy and everyone wins? It's just, that's the difference between love and sex. Sex is the game where everyone wins a little prize and no one goes home a loser, and love is the game that's really hard to win. But if you do, and you get to take home that life-size stuffed rhinoceros. It feels a whole lot better than taking home a shitty little plastic key chain.

"Love is not negotiable.Love is a guessing game,and that’s the beauty of it.There are no guarantees.It’s like diving into a pool of waterwithout knowing if its shallow or deepand sure [yeah] if its shallow you end uphurt and paralyzed from the neck down,but if it's deep…[you know] it's a leap of faith…its like throwing yourself out there withoutany guarantees, and that’s what life’s about.You know those carnival games,you know how some of them are really hard to winand those that are super easy and everyone winswell… that’s the difference between love and sexSex is the game where everyone wins a little prizeand no one goes home a loserand Love is the game that’s really hard to win.but if you do and you get to take home thatlife size stuffed rhinocerosand it feels a whole lot better than takinghome that little shitty plastic key chain."What is love? Who can specify it? Except falling in love at the first sight, does love exist in other forms?Maybe it's when love exists in other forms that it's so difficult for us to admit or to know that we love the other.Sex and love are separable, but sex and love are blended for the people in the stories of this movie. That's why after sex they argued or talked so much. The old couple wanted so much to tell their happy and wild sex they had in their younger days to their children, but they were afraid their children wouldn't be able to accpept it. They weren't sure how their children would react to it. We, as children, date, fool around, have sex behind parents. The experiences may be good, or bad. But whether it's good or bad, we want so much to share them with our parents just as the old couple wanted to share with their children. If it's good, we want to share the happiness with them; if it's bad, we wish we could turn to them for company. But we dare not to tell them. We conceal the experiences we care most from the ones whom we want to confide to most. We and our parents cannot open our hearts to each other. Who should be blamed for this? Why can't we take sex naturally and admit all types of sex? We all hate to be constrained by moral rules and social codes, but they are made by us. Why we human beings torture ourselves?

探讨两性问题十分好的影片，片中的主人公都因为自己被社会上的偏见思维所困挠：第一对，男方因为婚姻中的男人责任比较重，抱怨男女不平等，而不愿意与女方进入稳定关系，而只承认性伙伴，但依然希望女方先说爱自己，而女方也不说，最后还是男的妥协了，先表白；所以女方你也可以大胆的追呀！

第二对，因为内心恐同，而不愿意承认自己性取向的男孩，演员是，无耻之徒里的小米奇，演得不错，内心恐惧，又迷惑的无助，打动我了！

所以不要在恐同了，恐同很可能是深柜，it is ok to be gay!第三对，母亲因为女儿的性行为而担心，其实两个孩子什么都知道，还大胆谈论自己的往事；世代不同了；所以父母不要总认为孩子是你眼中的那个纯洁天使！

第四对，都想撇清自己是gay,一方是自己心里早知道但怕别人知道，而另方确实不是但喜欢对方带给自己的高潮快感！

所以有同性性行为不一定是gay！

第五对，母亲想向子女讲诉父母亲年轻时候的故事，但又害怕子女引以为耻，因为他们相识性派对，还玩过换妻和群交；所以子女也不要认为父母是什么楷模榜样；第六对，瘦长的摇滚歌手总向橄榄球教练男友说明自己是同志关系中男性一方，而男友认为，没有必要考虑别人怎么分，都是男人，只要相爱；所以不要标签化，说同志关系中总有一方担任女性角色！

第七对，放不下前夫的妻子，再次与前夫偷情，想把两人的问题再次摊开来说明白，但是前夫依然为自己花心的行为辩解，并且质问前妻为什么欺骗现在的男友与自己上床；第八对，一次随意的性后，两人才发现连名字都不知道，在随后的交谈中，女方大方承认自己是应召女郎；而后又自己12岁上过自己叔叔，男的无法接受，然后崩溃，最后戏剧般的转折;